Name: Love, Devotion, and Flowery Combat
SKU: LDF-DD-30
Availability: InStock

Description

In this live call recording of David Deida in conversation with Lisa Page, he shares ways to deepen the flow of love, devotion, and the thrill of ravishment in the ‘flowery combat’ of sex and intimacy. Listen in as they discuss feminine spiritual and sexual practices and the art of living as the fullness of love.

Track 1: Softening Cervix, Heart, and Throat

With softening of cervix, heart, and throat comes deeper sensitivity and vulnerability
When you feel deep love and devotion, the inner channel spontaneously opens
Practice is the intentional rehearsal of what happens naturally
In the 1st stage, you are focused on your own body and mind
In the 2nd stage, you are talking to improve your relationship
In the 3rd stage, your primary motive is to surrender open in deep love
Develop the skill set to deal with an aggressive world without losing feminine fullness
You suffer your partner’s lack of practice
When the inner channel is tense, sexual responsiveness gets frozen
You protect yourself from lack of presence by hardening the inner channel
Your vulnerable openness invites his deep presence
In the 2nd stage, you wait for your partner to practice
In the 3rd stage, you assume no-one is practising ever, you’re just doing your best to love because there’s nothing left to do with your life
Cultivate practice regardless of the circumstance
Wiggling your cervix is a more advanced practice
Practice is waking up in the moment to how closed you are being
How does love move through your body when you are free and fearless?
Let love express outwards from your soft inner core
From nipples to breasts, from breasts to heart, from heart to cervix
Feminine practice is to be a body of love

Track 2: It’s Never Enough

Growth means obsolescence of what has worked up until now
The feminine is identified with the flow of love
The masculine is identified with the emptiness of consciousness
No amount of skill or presence will fulfil you for long
Open-ended devotional yearning for more is a permanent feature of the feminine heart
The fact that it’s never enough is not a problem to be solved
The more present he is, the more presence you’ll want
As your cervix opens, his practice must deepen in sensitivity and skill
As he becomes more sensitive, you may not be able to do with his penis what you used to
You must both modify your technical skills as you grow in depth and sensitivity
He may lose his erection when he attends more to formless consciousness than to the form of your body
A semi-flaccid penis is not a problem
From oral, nipples, clit and pumping, to the emotional transmission of devotion and presence
As your practice evolves:
For her: It’s a deeper trust of love, whether he’s loving you or not
For him: It’s a deeper trust of formless presence, in himself and in you
You’ll never be satisfied with each other’s practice
Your desire for deeper love is as endless as his desire for space
Nothingness makes him happier than you do
He can never meet your demand for love
Skill sets are cultivated over time, endless devotional yearning is never fulfilled
He must learn specific techniques so he doesn’t make your soft internal channel flinch
You feel rejected by his need for space
He feels rejected when his practice isn’t good enough for you, and it’s never good enough!
You are a bodily form that he loves, and wants to escape from
Cultivate 3rd stage humor, knowing that you are calling each other into an open-ended invitation that is never fulfilled
Sexual relationships are a valuable from of practice because you get feedback constantly
Being alone doesn’t give you the same feedback as having a partner for whom it’s never enough

Track 3: What Makes Him Thrilling as a Lover

Stay relaxed in the body while ravishing each other forcefully
Connect your bodily movement to the depth of your heart
You want him to take you farther than you’re willing to go yourself
Sexual intensity requires sensitivity and presence
What makes him thrilling as a lover is that he’s not just pecking you on the cheek
Deepen the play of resistance and surrender
3rd stage ravishment requires deep connection, compassion, and empathy
His gift is claiming your devotional heart deeper than you could yourself
Your body craves ravishment

Track 4: Her Secret Delight in Flowery Combat

She pushes him away in order to feel his loving persistence
The feminine delights in resistance
Oneness is insufficient to the feminine
There’s no measure of his persistence unless she resists
Emotional conflict is the nature of the feminine
Her emotions often seem like sabotage to him
The feminine is a construction, destruction pulse
Pinning her down in the 3rd stage only works in deep connection
The feeling of oneness, separation, oneness, separation…is pleasurable to the feminine
The dance of oneness and separation makes a good love story
In life, the masculine wants to sit in zero
In sex, the masculine wants to be consciousness in the play of flowery combat
If you want him to fuck you harder with sensitivity, give him resistance to play with
She sabotages oneness for the sake of deeper oneness

Track 5: Becoming Continuous with the Universe

The more you open, the more you’ll perceive his lack
Sometimes feminine resistance is a form of wisdom
As you become more continuous with the universe, you’ll feel affected by everything
Epigenetics, your past, the collective unconscious, the moon, and the planets, may all come through you when making love
You can heal the pain of your ancestors through lovemaking
Trust your heart wisdom
Your body is the vehicle to become more love
The masculine way of saying it: You were born for consciousness to become ever more conscious of itself through the body
The feminine way of saying it: You were born for love to know love, and be expressed ever more fully through the body
Evolution is consciousness expressing itself in ever greater complexity
Growth in your capacity to love feels fulfilling

Track 6: Love Him But Don’t Settle

Ground your practice in the eternal recognition of love
There are two aspects to moment-by-moment feminine practice:
1. The skill you develop over time to relax open through fear and tension
2. The timeless bodily realization that you are love
You will never feel fully met
The nature of human life is that it’s dissatisfying
Practice loving the moment as it is
Love your limits
Your partner is not a baby
Develop your skills of loving while sustaining the timeless recognition of love
You will never get so skillful that there’s no more to learn
Your unconditional love meets his unconditional presence
Your bodily response meets his bodily transmission of presence
Don’t settle for his lack of presence
That’s the play – to love and not settle
‘That was good but it could be better’ and ‘I love you just like this‘
The feminine often has trouble differentiating her love from his skill
Cultivate your capacity to say no with a wide open heart, cervix, and throat

Track 7: Drama, Conflict, and the Growth of Love

Drama is the story through which the feminine grows in love
Learn to articulate love through the body
There is a difference between absolute and relative practice
The masculine grows through competition and challenge
The feminine grows through the drama of the potential loss of love
Recognise this eternal love that is always present
Transfer both the recognition of ever-present love, and the specific skills you learn in lovemaking, to your everyday life
Can you type from your cervix?
The feminine has not incarnated as human to simply be in the oneness of love
Stay soft and vulnerable while moving with intensity
Learn to integrate breath with speech
Feel the meridians from your heart to your finger tips
Feminine practice includes the pelvic rock, sacro-iliac motions, and pumping cerebral spinal fluid around your nervous system
All day you are making love with the world
Deal with limits in the world as you would with your lover
The feminine needs conflict to feel that love is being challenged and therefore growing

Love, Devotion, and Flowery Combat